[余澹富教導市民抗逆的演說]
余澹富說：
我們做事常常都會犯錯，或者做得不夠完美，
受到別人的責難。但我實實在在地告訴你們：
Nobody is perfect.
Imperfection is your individuality.
Imperfection is also a form of freedom.
Enjoy your imagination and dreams.
Forgive yourself！
You are good enough！
沒有人是完美的，
他們應該學習珍惜優點和缺點俱備的人，
應該用讚美來代替嘲諷，用鼓勵來代替責難，
讚美別人的優點，隱瞞他們的缺點。
If people scold you for your faults,
then they don’t even have a generous heart.
They don’t understand that forgiveness
is the key to their happiness.
If they don’t respect,
appreciate and value you,
then they don’t deserve you.
They should learn to accept
and love you for who you are,
not who they want you to be.
他們忘記了德蘭修女的教誨：
If you judge people,
you have no time to love them.
( Mother Teresa )
這一些人，
總是看到別人眼中的刺，看不到自己眼中的樑木！
Moreover, people who live in glass houses
should not throw stones.
They should make sure their hands are clean
before they start pointing fingers.
勵志專家告訴我們，
做人最重要的就是喜歡自己和善待自己，
其次就是包容和體諒別人。
所以你不批評我，我也不批評你，
刺和樑木，本來就應該互相包容，互相體諒，
和平共存，同心同德，同舟共濟，對不對！
Counting other people’s sins
doesn’t make them saints.
If you don’t fit in,
then you’re probably doing the right thing.
They have been crticizing you for a year,
and it hasn’t worked.
They should try to praise you
and see what happens.
只要有人的地方就有是非，而且是非天天有；
只要人家有嘴巴就會有意見和批評，就會有閒言閒語。
嘴巴是別人的，人生是自己的，
自己的人生，不要讓別人插手。
想快樂，就不要太在意別人的批評，
容易隨著別人的批評而心情波濤起伏的人，
有如背負著一袋二袋的包袱，
長期處於別人批評的壓力之下，
很容易產生焦慮和擔憂，註定與快樂無緣！
No one has the right to judge you
because no one really knows
what you have been through.
They might have heard stories,
but they didn’t feel
what you felt in your heart.
You are the expert on your own experience,
so trust yourself.
沒有人有權否定你，
世界上唯一能夠否定你的人，就只有你自己。
對我們這些已經很敏感的人，
就要學習「放下」，學習「鈍感」insensitivity，
對自己要有信心，千萬不要太緊張別人怎樣看自己。
我們不可能取悅世界上所有人，對不對？
這是事實，無法改變，只能接受！
為甚麼我要做別人嘴巴的奴隸？
為甚麼我要在意別人的想法？
罵儘他罵，說儘他說，
微笑，送給批評你最厲害的人，告訴他們，
他們的批評只不過好像一陣風，
你沒有被擊倒，而且活得很好。
你有信念，有明確堅定的價值觀，有自己處世做人的原則，
你自己做主，不隨波逐流，想做甚麼就做甚麼，
你做自己真正喜歡做的事，全身心地投入其中，
感到內在的愉快和充實。
你做自己人生的主人，除了你自己，誰都不重要。，
要讓自己活得風光、漂亮！快樂最要緊！
Never apologize for being you.
( Nancy Rainwater )
Why are you trying so hard to fit in,
when you’re born to stand out？
( Oliver James )
The only way to do great work
is to love what you do.
( Steve Jobs )
What a man can be, he must be.
We call this need self-actualization.
That’s why we want to be all that
we are capable of becoming.
We should never tell a child that
his dream is unlikely or outlandish.
Few things are more humiliating,
and what a tragedy it would be
if they believed it.
If you want something bad enough,
never give up.
Brick walls are there for a reason.
And once you get over them──
even if someone has practically
had to throw you over──
it can be helpful to others
to tell them how you did it.
( Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture, p.174 )
Sometimes, all you have to do is ask, and
it can lead to all your dreams coming true.
( Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture, p.179 )
If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
( Mahatma Gandhi )
「你們祈求，就給你們；尋找，就尋見；叩門，就給你們開門。
因為凡祈求的就得著，尋找的就尋見，叩門的就給他開門。」
《馬太福音 7：7-8》
無論是勵志者、牧師、傳道人、教會內的羔羊，
甚至貪官、奴才、鹹濕佬和強姦者聽到之後，
都不斷地在點頭和喝采，
我見到最後排的希特勒甚至在大力地鼓掌叫好。
因為我說的都是放諸四海而皆準的真理！
記得 Sydney J. Harries 曾經說過：
每個人心中都有把『快樂的鑰匙』，
一個成熟的人掌握住自己快樂的鑰匙，
不會把它交給別人掌管，
讓別人來掌控他的心情，掌控他的情緒，
讓自己的快樂任人擺佈。
No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
( Regina Brett )
勵志專家告訴我們：
Be truly comfortable with who you are.
Never try to convince somebody of your worth.
Do not let people make you feel bad or guilty
fot living your life.
Do not let the words and the behavior of others
destroy your inner peace.
Happiness is when you feel good about yourself
without feeling the need for anyone else’s approval.
If they leave you, they don’t deserve you and
you don’t need them. If they walked away,
they weren’t part of your destiny.
Let go of all the people who dull your shine,
poison your spirit and bring you drama！
These people spread negative energy,
they complain about everything you do and
appreciate nothing.
在無人為我們鼓掌的時候，給自己一個鼓勵；
在無人為我們拭淚的時候，給自己一些安慰；
在我們自慚形穢的時候，給自己一片空間，一份自信。
抖落昨日的疲憊與無奈，撫去昨日的傷痛和淚水，
去迎接明天嶄新的朝陽，走向一個風和日麗的晨曦。
學會欣賞自己，才能把自己變得更加強大。
( Aubrey Fan Ching Ching )
林子祥 《誰能明白我》
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=flnsVrg4pGQ
由於這個演說不涉及動機和道德的批判，
不涉及當事人的權力、社會職務和責任，
亦不會討論行為的結果，
令所有人都能夠「心安理得、心平氣和、心滿意足」，
所以余澹富贏得了來自黑、白、灰三道的掌聲和擁戴。
余澹富私底下告訴我：
明白這個道理的人才有機會生意興隆，大吃四方，
即使心知肚明、心裡有數的人亦可以心存僥倖。
不論如何計算，
演說「成功」的機率至少是百分之九十以上！
高手果然是高手。